Have you ever tried to blend in? If so, you already know that it's difficult because as necessary as it is for an individual to belong, we all want to be known and remembered; and mostly importantly we want to matter. It is a struggle for many people in all walks of like but being an expat, it becomes extremely important. We, as wanderlust, an expat, sacrifice a lot to be able to extend ourselves into the hands of an upcoming opportunity while moving away from our country of birth but anonymity is not the price we are willing to pay. We’d still want to belong wherever we go, and whatever we do.
The move is often not a choice for many people but it is still in our hands to choose how we respond to the situation.
In the previous generation of Indian immigrants to the States, there were a lot of them who built a community of people around them that looked like them, ate like them and spoke like them, a very typical scenario similar to the one portrayed in the book ‘Namesake’ by Jumpa Lahiri. There were two facet of every Indian-American, things we do outside the home and things do inside the home. Many folks still follow a similar pattern but it’s not the only expat lifestyle one can pursue.
Like I had said before, I grew up moving throughout India, starting new school every few years, making new friends, new home and new activities so I did have a better vantage point to prescribe this but anyone can pursue it, all you have to do is to accept who you are even in the midst of searching yourself.
There are a few things you’ll need to be prepared for and that is, stepping out of your comfort zone and letting other see you and not care about it. Don’t dissolve yourself, you have to remain a separate identity to be able to contribute something to the mix, if we were all bended into each other, the world would just be a big giant muck.
If you notice what I just did; I first boxed myself in stereotypes and then stepped right over them. And this is how I personally deal with change and embrace it with open arms. I use boundaries to identify with people but don’t use them to limit who I’m and so far I have been successful at it.